tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5388041559282130930.post6914217353761374106..comments2023-03-24T07:39:52.213-06:00Comments on An Idiosyncratic Life: The Only Girl in the World. . . .Heidihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09265027127478436907noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5388041559282130930.post-26016359082129286652010-11-01T16:49:42.439-06:002010-11-01T16:49:42.439-06:00Thanks Deb,
I miss you and love you too.Thanks Deb, <br />I miss you and love you too.Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09265027127478436907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5388041559282130930.post-76994157182464062732010-11-01T12:40:42.817-06:002010-11-01T12:40:42.817-06:00What a horrible experience. I am so sorry Heidi t...What a horrible experience. I am so sorry Heidi that it went badly. I know how hard you worked to fit into that killer red dress and how excited you were to wear it.<br /><br />I really don't know what to say about the guy issue. I just want to you to know that I love you. My heart hurts for you. You are such an amazing woman and I admire you so much. Hang in there Sweetie! There is nothing wrong with who you are. You are trying to do the right thing, keeping your kids in your heart, and handling life in a positive way. You Are Wonderful!!Deb Wildehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13431642327346173164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5388041559282130930.post-36952756259315146862010-10-27T14:19:39.357-06:002010-10-27T14:19:39.357-06:00Ashley, I think you really hit the nail on the hea...Ashley, I think you really hit the nail on the head. That is how every guy in Utah is. I've thought about out of state guys, but I so don't want to move. I feel it unfair to expect them to move to make it work. But I do feel men in Utah, rely too much on their mothers and are lax about life/dating. Isn't this what people naturally want to do with their lives? Meet someone?? I just don't get it either.Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09265027127478436907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5388041559282130930.post-12818079626881367262010-10-26T20:46:54.688-06:002010-10-26T20:46:54.688-06:00Ginny,
I'm so sorry that 13 years have passed...Ginny, <br />I'm so sorry that 13 years have passed for you. I do agree that there are worse things than being single therefore settling is just not an option for me. However I'm not comfortable in my single skin and I so don't want 13 years to pass for me before I am. I do however, expect it. I hope that's not too pessimistic. <br /><br />Ashley,<br />I agree with you, and have been doing my best to focus my life that way. But some small part of me feels like I am giving up. Like I am choosing defeat over the fight. I just haven't found that balance yet. <br /><br />Thanks for your comments!Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09265027127478436907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5388041559282130930.post-5324701944431961342010-10-26T20:41:54.187-06:002010-10-26T20:41:54.187-06:00One more thing....you may need to look out-of-stat...One more thing....you may need to look out-of-state. Nate and I have come to the conclusion that the vast majority of Utah guys have no idea how to date/pursue/treat women and a lot of them(the single ones) are scared of the responsibility of a mature relationship and marriage. They generally seem to expect women to do all the work. We've noticed this with men that we've known in and out of the LDS church. <br />Nate was raised in Las Vegas and with the idea that if he liked a girl, he should to do something about it. He was shocked to learn that I had many male acquaintances and friends in high school and college, but had only been asked out on one actual date. The rest, I had done the asking. Then, after I got engaged, they all start saying, "Oh, I really liked you. I think we would have been good together." So why didn't they do anything?! I just don't get it. <br />So here's some more of my rather lengthy advice....take a vacation and meet some men from other places and see if there's a difference. You never know. =)The Barnum Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12242274852458364349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5388041559282130930.post-46557115533348382512010-10-26T14:51:34.130-06:002010-10-26T14:51:34.130-06:00Your recent date scenario sounded all too familiar...Your recent date scenario sounded all too familiar. I've had a couple like that myself. I really have no brilliant advice. Men probably are intimidated by an amazing single woman with three equally amazing daughters. The one that you want to find will be be the one who sees that as a very attractive quality and a family that he wants to be a part of. Sadly, that one guy will likely be hard to find. <br /> My advice, if I were to give any, would be to keep focusing on yourself and your daughters. Keep working on your weight loss and achieving goals that you set for yourself. Don't stop looking or dating, by any means, but try to make it more of a secondary focus. <br />I always was the one asking guys out and working to make my dating life happen until Nate came along out of the blue and actually pursued me for a change. That was one of the ways I knew he was what I wanted. <br />I know it's much easier said than done, but try to relax. Try to focus on yourself and your girls and Mr. Right will most likely find his way to you in his own due time.The Barnum Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12242274852458364349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5388041559282130930.post-27575344429821174642010-10-25T22:27:29.113-06:002010-10-25T22:27:29.113-06:00I wish beyond all wishes that I had some grand ans...I wish beyond all wishes that I had some grand answer for you. I've now been single for 13 years, doing the single mom thing. Like you, not for lack of trying.. (dating of every type)<br />I guess after my 13 years of dating, I'm to the realization that I'm going to be single at least until my son is 18 and out of the house. Its been just this last year that I've decided that I'm okay with that, and I've stopped trying.Ginny Clarkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15747681231344346476noreply@blogger.com